Isolation and LGBTQ youth: Social, psychological and financial implications

By Phyllis Hanlon
September 14th, 2018

LGBT youth isolationThis project was supported by a grant from the American Society of Journalists and Authors (ASJA).

In a 2017 Washington Post article, former Surgeon General Vivek H. Murthy cited emotional well-being and loneliness as one of today’s big public health worries. While the average American might experience isolation and disconnectedness at various times during their lives because of intense career involvement, age discrimination, geographic remoteness or for other reasons, many youth who identify as LGBTQ endure isolation, broken relationships and disconnections on an ongoing basis, sometimes with devastating results.

According to David Oberleitner, Ph.D, chair, department of psychology, University of Bridgeport in Connecticut, isolation, or the perception of isolation, can be either an active or passive process.

He explained that exclusion might entail directly being ignored or actively discriminated against by others, limiting access to social activities and school groups.

“It can be less direct as well when the individual perceives that others do not respect them or do not want them around,” Oberleitner said, noting that the perception that others do not “see” or hear you can be just as powerful as being actively ignored.

The perception of isolation, whether correct or not, is just as damaging as true or active exclusion.

Categorizing isolation

Nicole Issa, Psy.D, founder, Center for Dynamic and Behavioral Therapy in New York City, indicated that isolation falls into five categories.

LGBTQ youth who are unable to talk to anyone about their sexuality suffer social isolation, a concept that comprises four sub-dimensions, including lack of social support, no contact with the LGBTQ community, social withdrawal, and victimization.

Issa added that separation from social networks, including family, could have a negative impact. “[Youth] are often guarded about their sexuality, which may heighten the feelings of emotional isolation,” she said.

In many instances, LGBTQ youth have no access to relevant information or role models, which may lead to cognitive isolation, Issa said. “Much of the information they are exposed to is negative and harmful, and thus only reinforces the feeling of isolation.”

Also, pressures to be “normal” prompt some LGBTQ youth to “…try to conform to heteronormative expectations,” according to Issa. She reported that these youth isolate themselves from others who appear outwardly to be LGBTQ to avoid being “discovered.”

Finally, Issa said that when LBGT youth acknowledge their own sexual identity and/or gender identity, they probably recognize they are different from societal expectations. She said, “Knowing that oneself is `different’ can be an extremely isolating feeling.”

The very act of “coming out” can create feelings of isolation, according to Laura M.I. Saunders, Psy.D, ABPP, clinical coordinator, The Right Track/LGBTQ Specialty Track, at the Institute of Living in Hartford, Connecticut.

“The self-identity creates a feeling of being different. If the person is seemingly not accepted in the family, community and town, the process stays internalized and creates a feeling of isolation.”

Saunders reported that youth who identify as LGBTQ face three critical stressors: minority stress, which could be racial in nature; social stigma, i.e., the expectation of being rejected; and family rejection.

“You tip the scales with LGBTQ individuals who are more isolated and have higher rates of mental illness,” she said.

Oberleitner reported that research on this topic is robust. “We see that psychologically, those who experience or perceive social isolation/social exclusion may have lowered self-esteem, lessened feelings of control, as well as increased depressive symptomology,” he said.

Additionally, research has found that perceptions of social isolation and loneliness are associated with physical repercussions, such as increased blood pressure and impaired sleep.

Interestingly, social exclusion has been found to induce similar patterns of brain activation as the experience of physical pain, Oberleitner said.

“As such, it can easily be stated that experiencing exclusion or perceiving loneliness and social isolation can be exceptionally negative and impactful to the individual.”

Psychological interventions

Addressing the issue of isolation begins with social connection, according to Saunders. She uses a three-pronged approach with clients in The Right Track, an outpatient program at the Institute of Living out of Hartford Hospital.

The program addresses topics like “Basic Needs and Mental Health,” and creates an “Affirming Community.”

The Right Track focuses on “…the unique needs of the LGBTQ population who are at greater risk for psychosocial stressors, negative coping and family rejection along with co-occurring mental health difficulties.”

Saunders reported that the program aims to help “… LGBTQ young adults develop skills to identify and modulate stress and stigma; strengthen family and family-of-choice connections; expand coping skills and capitalize on personal strengths.”

A critical component of the program is “Witnessing and Mirroring,” which involves psychologically engaging with others.

Saunders explained that “Witnessing” refers to validating the youth’s self-identity, e.g., “I hear your story,” and “Mirroring” helps the youth see oneself in the eyes of others who are similar, e.g., “I can relate to you.”

Both constructs complement each other. “Witnessing without Mirroring leaves one feeling profoundly alone/isolated,” said Saunders.

A second important step involves helping the individual identify the micro-aggressions that take place during the coming-out journey, according to Saunders.

Matthew Kobs, Psy.D, school psychologist and private practitioner in Manchester, New Hampshire, uses motivational interviewing for his clients who identify as LGBTQ, noting that this technique provides a way for youth to “reflect how they view themselves” and thus helps prevent isolative behavior.

“One of the biggest traps is lack of adequate knowledge and misinformation,” he said.

Motivational interviewing occurs in a series of stages, according to Kobs, which begins when the individual recognizes ambivalence and then reflects on ways to respond.

He added that each stage also takes place within the parameters of developmental appropriateness.

“There is a certain trajectory when working with youth who identify as LGBTQ,” he said. “A conversation with a 10-year old will differ from that with a 17-year old.”

Kobs also reported that including parents in the intervention process is imperative, especially if some discord exists that might cause isolation.

Potential for suicide

Suicide is a much more serious problem for youth who identify as LGBTQ. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), LGBTQ youth are two to five times as likely as their straight peers to attempt suicide, and young transgender people are also at heightened risk.

Oppression and marginalization are cited as leading contributing factors to suicidality. Additionally, LGBTQ youth whose families have rejected them are 8.4 times as likely to attempt suicide.

Megan C. Lytle, Ph.D, co-chair, Children, Youth, and Families Committee of the American Psychological Association’s (APA) Society for the Psychology of Sexual Orientation and Gender Diversity, said that her primary concern is suicidal tendencies and ideation.

She supports research that describes how rejection/feeling disconnected is a risk factor of suicidal behavior, while acceptance/feeling connectedness is protective.

Lytle embraces the interpersonal theory of suicide and minority stress model that both highlights the benefits of connectedness and suggests that lack of connection is linked to poor outcomes.

She added that the sources-of-strength program, a school-based effort to fight against suicidal behaviors, helps to enhance social networks and the relationships between youth leaders and trusted adults.

Lytle recommends parents consult with the Family Acceptance Project for strategies to help minimize risk of suicide for a child who identifies as LGBTQ.

Financial implications

Isolation also imposes a financial burden on society, Saunders said. She noted that LGBTQ youth who have depression and anxiety, (which are symptoms of isolation), as well as increased stress and suicidal ideation or tendencies, are less able to function in the workplace.

As a result, are unable to be productive members of society.

Furthermore, LGBTQ youth who don’t feel safe in schools have a higher dropout rate and lower academic scores, she pointed out. “This affects a person economically throughout life.”

Issa pointed to a 2014 World Bank Study that explored the cost of stigma and exclusion of LGBTQ people in India.

She said that these statistics could be applied to a broader geographic population. The report cited a “conceptual model” that links exclusion of those who identify as LGBTQ with economic development.

For instance, employment discrimination and restrictions on labor supply often lead to lower productivity and output.

The study also reported that fewer employment opportunities and lower incomes for those who identify as LGBTQ increases the demand for anti-poverty programs and other public services.

Additionally, studies in 39 countries have found that isolation leads to joblessness, food insecurity, and poverty. The report determined that discrimination against LGBTQ individuals can cost an economy the size of India’s $32 billion.

The current social climate for LGBTQ youth differs, depending on geographic location, according to Issa. “I think in some parts of the country it may feel ‘safer’ for LGBTQ-identified youth to come out, but for many, the issues remain the same.”

Issa recommended psychologists seek training on diversity and affirmative therapy and allow LGBTQ individuals to explore their feelings in a safe environment.

She also suggested validating and recognizing the influence that homophobia and prejudice have on one’s identity development.

Increased awareness and education is just the initial step in achieving acceptance for youth who identify as LGBTQ. Finding an effective solution to the problems LGBTQ youth face continues to be challenging but is of paramount importance.

Phyllis Hanlon has been a regular contributor to New England Psychologist since 1999. As an independent journalist, she has also written for a variety of health, medicine and business consumer and trade publications. 


LGBTQ Youth Resources


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CDC LGBT Youth Resources

Family Acceptance Project – This evidence-based family-related model aims to “…change the paradigm for how LGBT children and youth are nurtured, cared for a served across disciplines and systems of care” through the use of interviews, case studies and surveys.

GLSEN – An education organization aimed at creating safe and inclusive schools.

It Gets Better – This is a nonprofit organization whose “…mission is to uplift, empower and connect lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer youth around the globe.”

PFLAG – First and largest organization in the country with chapters in every state designed to unite families and provide social connections with other parents of children who identify as LGBTQ.

The Suicide Prevention Lifeline

The Trevor Project

The Unlonely Planet

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